To Hilary, Michele, Amal, Claire,Ruby to all of us tough cookies..

Well it's almost November and I reckon we all have at least one hot topic on our minds.

If I may be allowed to make and share this assumption, it would be about the white house women. this is by no chance a political piece but a piece about women in general and how society has for years dictated how we express ourselves, dress, speak , what shade of lipstick to wear etc

I can imagine the shock that Michele Obama's dress choice for her last state dinner induced amongst conservative upper class America or the world in general, my goodness , a body con Versace dress, an Italian designed dress , the epitome of decadence and glamour oh my goodness, who ever thought of the day, thankfully who ever dressed the First Lady did.

That the dress dared to be sexy as f£&&, of liquid metallic shimmer even more awesome , a dress  to be noticed in, befiting of a succesful Law professor who stands tall and beautiful, whose speeches are inspiring, educative and even hip, sometimes even copied by others. A woman whose personality , character , intelligence and accomplishments speak for her and not her dress, is beyond awesome.

What Mrs Obama has done is to redefine what a first wife is, a woman, an individual an equal partner of a leader, who herself could take the said role up if she so wants ,is competent to do perhaps even a better job or just as good , whose appearance if anything is a bonus as one might dare to say that an attractive boss if anything is a bonus rather than a curse i.e. If you dare to notice.

​She has made it okay to have an identity, be stylish ,dare to wear risqué known designer brands. oK perhaps not Moschino by Jeremy Scot...not yet.

On the same note as perhaps not so popular in a few circles, Hilary Clinton has also come into her own in her later years. Sadly not sooner as she is now being crucified for playing a stepford wife during the alleged infidelities of Bill, as her every response or lack of it has now been levied against her. A successful smart sexy (yes she was all of those and more see pictures attached)woman if not how else do you think Bill would have fallen for her????

My friends shall we together put an end to the Stepford wife phenomenon and say its okay to maintain your identity irrespective of who we end up with,  okay to also want to be the boss, be sexy and smart and beat the boys sometimes and if my partner decides to have a non sexual sexual relation/ relations with someone else at work etc , To want her gullotined with his bits too and go to therapy and then discover peace , religion and forgiveness... only then of course

My friends;

To the Amal Clooney's of our time, whose aesthetic virtues I could write a whole PHD desertation on.
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To wearing Ruby woo and not some shitty neutral piece of crap when meeting the in laws , going into work etc

To wearing what I consider appropriate shoes or otherwise to work (as I am a sensible adult ).

To being ourselves, true and true.

To you staring at me at the school gate because I came in "my going out clothes" to pick my son up, "get a life" and yes just like the boys on a bad day when I am sure my mom is not going to find out or my kids either I SWEAR .... deal with it( ok I don't quite and I am too petrified of grandmas wrath😜😜😜😜)

To trampling over people's expectations of us as damn it , I can't even deal with my own personal expectations of my self, enough of the perfect hostess, wife , super mummy Bull crap, to being ourselves smart individuals ,young , not so young ,sexy or not 😘😘😘😘